I promise I won’t keep disappearing! With my new work schedule (Adjusting to another family and attending another baby shower my week was all hectic!)
Over the past few days I have had many people reach out to me and ask me straight up, “how many families do you nanny for throughout the week?” and if you really want to know its five. May seem like alot in just 7 days but I believe after this past week, the schedule will be perfect for me. (I bet your thinking..why not just have one family throughout the week full time, and thats another story in itself.)
However, with attending the past baby shower, I got to thinking…When I am in that position will I have a plan? Will I have the support needed when the child arrives, and how will I go about my nanny career? These thoughts run through my mind when someone asks me “when will you start a family?”, and honestly I draw a blank. There is something that honestly terrifies me about having my own child, and its not the fact of having one, or raising one, to me will be the most joyful part of the experience but the labor and deciding on childcare is something I will have a really tough time with deciding.
But in the sense of helping you, (As I was asked for my thoughts and advice for new parents) I will give it to you straight. Be ready, because there will be no sugar coating it for this entry.
Of course, all choices are different but this one however is simple!
Plan it out!
The best advice I can give to a new mommy is plan a good amount out before your little one arrives because when they do, you either won’t have the time to think about the future decisions to be made, or you will want to spend every second you can with your little one and make every excuse in the book not to plan something out (but who can blame you with that cute face from the ultrasound picture!)
From a professional stand point, I thoroughly believe that you need to first decide on childcare. As much as you think you have time to think this one out, trust me when I say children grow in a blink of an eye. (Hopefully you already have given it some thought and discussed this with your partner) – Whether it be one of you staying home for a certain time, having ones parents come and visit for a few weeks, having a live in or live out nanny, or even day care at a young age. I’ve seen it all throughout the years and there is no right or wrong answer. You shouldn’t have to stress much about it and if you do just breathe! Your little one will know that you are doing EVERYTHING in the world to be the best parent or guardian you can be. TRUST ME.
There is no wrong answer to childcare and there is absolutely no judging here on this blog as I support every parent out there. After all, we are all just trying to survive correct?
If you have decided to stay home with your little one, my best suggestion for a new mommy is make time for yourself. This doesn’t mean, take a vacation from your 8 week maternity leave, however make the time to rest. The first weeks to well, 18 years are going to be endless and exhausting at times but give some time to yourself. Don’t feel like you need to absolutely do that load of laundry that day and time, or feel like you need to cook that meal from scratch that day, but take some time for you! Make yourself that cup of tea you like while you breast feed, or get that comfortable pillow you saw at home goods to make laying with your child easier, do something for you. In the end, happy parents make happy children. Give your child the best version of you, endlessly.
If you decided on having your parents help out around the house, or in laws, friends, family members, more props for you! Before you start pulling out your hair after the fifth week, remember, its a blessing to have family around. Take my advice and find time to relax just for you. Little things such as facial masks count!!
Having a nanny? Take a step back and think. Are you going to be searching for a part time or full time nanny? A day time or night time nanny? Maybe part time while your home and transition into full time? Oh boy..it doesn’t stop there. Can we afford a nanny? (Think about it – an average newborn nanny will make between 18-25 an hour in Orange County – and depending on the age after will adjust from experience and etc.) Will day care be a cheaper option? (Do you want day care as an option). Personally, without any filter here, I would suggest a nanny. Not just because I fully support nannies out there but if you really think about what your getting from a nanny I can prove my point. (I have nothing against day cares, again no judgement here, this is just my opinion.) Having a nanny, whether it be part time or full time is someone in your home that will help raise and guide your child with you. Your nanny will ultimately (as I believe) be cross trained for a housekeeper as well. Think about this for a second. *Coming home after a nine, ten hour day to a well rested happy baby, a clean house, and a happy environment where you know your baby will be safe and protected and that moment when you open the fridge to find that dinner is already made for you – waiting for you*
That moment right there is why I get paid what I get paid.
That moment of ease and stress from everyday thoughts and pressure has disappeared and now you have all night to yourself and your little one.
But getting a nanny, yes, personally can add up but when you get that one on one attention for your child and all the perks that come with it, is it really that different from day care? I mean realistically this is the hopes that you have a babysitter for practically life too. I’ve been a full time nanny and adjusted to be a babysitter for so many families I can’t even count. And to be honest, I wouldn’t have it any other way. I love to see these children grow, and its amazing to know that little Lena (whose name shall be anonymous) was only 4 months old when I started helping her family, to be a grown 3 year old who sells lemonade every Saturday morning in her neighborhood.
Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love day care. In fact, I worked at one for newborns for less than a year until I transitioned into my preschool position. However, after taking care of an infant full time, its something I personally would look into if I were you. But where do you start? How do you even begin your search? When and where should you start looking? These will be all answered once you start your personal plan.
You may even find yourself making a checklist to make things easier, limit an age group of nannies you want to interview, perhaps they will need to be required to speak another language or have reliable transportation to take your child out and about some days.
Once your checklist is complete, try your options of neighbors who might know nannies in the area, care.com, urban sitter, or contact me personally with your criteria. Before you meet your candidates make sure they fit within your standards. The last thing you will want to do is settle with who you think should be around your child. And truely realize that you will be seeking long term (as I assume you will not be wanting to do this process over again in six months). When meeting the nanny candidates ask the right questions, below is a link I have attached to get the ball rolling.
When you believe you have found your nanny make sure (as I personally would go out of my way to pay for this) that they are recently CPR certified for newborns and have taken an up to date course on caring for an infant. Your new nanny will need the patience of an angel and it’s something that is a gift to have, so make sure they know that this position will require a lot of patience as newborns aren’t put on a schedule right away, everything will require a lot of work, patience and attention.
*I have had many of families over the years notify me that there are active cameras around the home to ensure the safety of the child, so don’t feel that it’s out of the ordinary. In fact its something that I personally would do if I was a parent.*
Perhaps day care is your answer! Working an 8-5 job and looking for an easy drop off and pick up? This is your calling! There’s something about starting school early for a child that puts a parent as ease, and I don’t blame you! You are already building relationships at school with staff and trust for the future and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. I mean, hell, it could even be more expensive than having a nanny for all I know, and your getting more benefits for you and your child? Then to me it’s a personal win. If you do decide on this route and choice for a day care, you must realize that most schools and daycare’s will require certain vaccines to be up to date with your child that you might not want to expose to them to so early and it’s something to consider. (Perhaps discuss the school policy on vaccines before making this decision.) But also realize that the school may bring more bacteria and germs to your little one if not careful. With this thought, I personally advise you to visit the facility a few times and examine the toys and room that your child might be in 8-9 hours of the day and make the executive decision, is it safe enough for your child?
There is a lot to think about when it comes to your little one arriving and trust me it doesn’t stop there! But hopefully this points you in some direction.
Remember there is no right or wrong choice!